Showing posts with label gratitude and mental health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gratitude and mental health. Show all posts

Monday, April 21, 2025

Exploring Spirituality and Mental Health: Women’s Lived Experiences with Bipolar Disorder

Exploring Spirituality and Mental Health: Women’s Lived Experiences with Bipolar Disorder

Mental health and spirituality are deeply interconnected, offering comfort, meaning, and resilience for many. For women with Bipolar disorder, spirituality can be a source of strength—but also a complex and personal journey. Finding balance between your spiritual journey and your mental health journey will have its challenges but it's not impossible. This article explores the connection between spirituality and mental health, how spirituality has played a unique role in my Bipolar disorder journey, some common spiritual practices for mental wellness, challenges and misconceptions around spirituality and Bipolar disorder, and how you can integrate spirituality in your mental health plan.


The Connection Between Spirituality and Mental Health


Spiritual practices can have a positive and long lasting effect on emotional and psychological well-being as they promote a sense of purpose, connection to community and inner peace. This can lead to reduced anxiety, stress, depression and substance use as well as enhance overall emotional stability and wellness. 


Spiritual practice can help an individual define purpose and meaning in their lives which can help them avoid feelings of emptiness and despair. This sense of purpose can foster resilience when dealing with challenges in life and promote positivity. Spirituality can also be a catalyst for forgiveness when dealing with difficult interpersonal relationship dynamics. It can also connect you to your community providing you with social support and a sense of belonging. Oftentimes people feel isolated when dealing with mental illness and through the exploration of spirituality you can gain a connection to others which is vital for mental and emotional well-being.


Spirituality and religious practices can be used as coping mechanisms for individuals struggling with mood disorders offering respite from some of the negative aspects of the illness by providing a positive outlet for addressing periods of depression or anxiety. Spirituality can provide various tools such as prayer, meditation or guidance from religious leaders which can help with symptom management and emotional well-being. Research suggests religious and spiritual practices are associated with lower levels of anxiety, depression and negative mood states attributing this to the sense of purpose, meaning and community support often derived from regular spiritual or religious practices. 


It is important to note however, that although spirituality and religious practices are valuable coping mechanisms that can promote emotional stability and emotional well-being, it is not a replacement for professional mental health treatment for severe mood conditions like Bipolar disorder. It can be considered a supplementary resource that can enhance psychological and emotional wellness rather than a singular resource for complex mental illness. It has been my experience that the community connection, structure and routine that my spiritual practices provide me has enhanced the overall treatment plan for Bipolar disorder that I currently follow.          

The Connection Between Spirituality and Psychosis: A Woman’s Lived Experience


I remember my first manic-psychotic episode like it was yesterday rather than 20 years ago. I was living in Gatineau, MTL, working as a hostess at a local restaurant and still dating my university partner. I woke up one morning  and I felt different, almost superhuman with boundless energy. I could not sit still, my thoughts were racing, I was hallucinating and hearing voices that were telling me I was on a mission from God to save the lost souls of the world. I somehow made it to work that morning but when my manager realized I was behaving erratically and telling my fellow staff members God was coming for them to punish the unholy, he called the police for what would be my first wellness check.


The police took me to the local Emergency Room where I received a psychological assessment. After a few hours I was released into the care of my partner with the instruction to eat and get rest. However, when we arrived back at my apartment I was unable to be still, the hallucinations were worse as now I imagined I could connect with the Holy Spirit though my computer and the TV which my partner had to unplug because I was rapidly flipping through the channels looking to find messages from Jesus Christ.


When my partner realized I wasn’t getting better he called my mother to tell her I was very unwell and she needed to come and get me. My parents drove the four hours to Quebec and found me reading the Bible and screaming random scriptures at the top of my lungs. From what I can recall by the time they arrived I believed I was Jesus Christ, my father was the devil and my mother and aunt who had accompanied them were my disciples called to help me fulfill my holy destiny. After much struggle, my parents were able to get me into their car and we drove a harrowing four hours back to Toronto, my aunt in the drivers seat, my father in the passenger seat and my mother with me in the back seat trying to stop me from jumping out of a moving vehicle. 


My religious ideations didn’t end there, over the next 20 years of episodes I would continue to have God-related delusions and hallucinations believing I was either the second coming of Christ or that the devil was controlling my thoughts. During my last episodes of psychosis I would have conversations with someone I believed to be the devil and I would even speak in religious tongues. I continued to connect with my spirituality by attending church but would often disrupt service by falling in the aisles and speaking to myself in an non-audible manner that concerned the other members of the congregation. 


I can’t say why my psychotic episodes are God-centred other than that in my wellness I feel a deep connection to my spirituality and my religious beliefs have always provided me comfort in dark times. For example, When I was experiencing suicidal ideations it was Psalm 23 as well as the steadfast prayers of several family members that saved me from completing my attempt. Also, during my periods of unwellness I rely on the daily scripture 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God did not give you a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.” This became and still is my daily affirmation which reminds me that no matter my condition I should never let fear dictate my actions on my journey to mental wellness. My connection to my spirituality whether based in psychosis or remission/recovery reminds me that my spirit is powerful, full of love and my faith encourages me to hold onto a mind that is sound even when it's not always sane.           

Common Spiritual Practices for Mental Wellness

Spirituality is a unique experience for everyone. Some people find spirituality through prayer and religious practices like reading spiritual texts; others find that meditation and mindfulness help with emotional regulation. Whatever spiritual practice you choose, it has been proven that incorporating some practice into your daily routine can have a positive effect on your mental well-being. Below are some options for spiritual practices that may be worth exploring.

Meditation: Focusing on the present moment by quieting your mind. You can explore guided meditation practice or simply use medication soundscapes to create an environment of relaxation and calm. Some apps that are available are Insight Timer, HeadSpace or Youtube. This practice can reduce stress, anxiety and improve focus.

Mindfulness: Paying attention to thoughts and feelings without self-judgement. Practicing mindfulness can be done by doing almost anything. For example, you can eat food mindfully focusing on every bite and chew and connecting it to your thoughts and feelings. You can brush your teeth mindfully thinking about the feeling it evokes in you as you do it. Lastly, you can listen to music mindfully, really tuning into the words and sounds you hear and how they resonate with you on an emotional level. Mindfulness can increase self-awareness as well as emotional regulation.

Gratitude: Focusing on the aspects of your life you are grateful for can create a sense of well-being and positivity. Start a gratitude journal and make it a daily practice to first write down one thing you are grateful for and overtime you can increase the list. Before you realize it the growing list will foster a sense of contentment within you and help you start or end your day with joy.

Forgiveness: This is not always the easiest practice but it may be the most beneficial. Letting go of anger and resentment towards others has been proven an effective way to foster healing, personal growth and reduce stress and anxiety. Remember forgiveness is for you not others and it may be easier to practice writing letters of forgiveness and throwing them away when you are ready to let go and move on.  

Prayer: Engaging in prayer can act as a connection with something outside of yourself. Whether it's personal or communal prayer this practice can provide you with a sense of comfort, peace, strength and connection.The practice of prayer can occur anywhere at anytime, out loud or in your head, this practice can be uniquely yours as you can allow the words to flow like a conversation or you can look to spiritual texts to guide you in your prayer practice. Remember there is no right or wrong way to pray as it is your internal connection to a force outside of yourself that may help you gain peace and deeper understanding of your journey. 

Affirmations: Daily affirmations can boost your self-esteem, reduce stress and anxiety and promote positivity increasing both emotional and mental well-being. They can help overcome negative thoughts, increase resilience and help with self-worth, motivation and personal growth. Some apps to consider are Iam, ThinkUp, Mantra, GoodMind.  

Connect with Nature: Spending time in nature can enhance feelings of connectivity, relaxation and calm. Grounding also known as earthing is a practice where you intentionally connect your body to the earth for example, your feet to grass, the theory states that earth is energy and you can get an energetic charge that has been shown to benefit sleep, enhance mood, reduce stress and anxiety, feelings of overwhelmedness and general well-being.  


Challenges and Misconceptions About Spirituality and Bipolar Disorder

There are several challenges and misconceptions about spirituality and mental illnesses like Bipolar disorder. For women with Bipolar disorder the experience of stigma, finding a support system within their spiritual community and potentially a hindrance to treatment and recovery are all challenges that can be faced when spirituality and mental health collide. Stigma and lack of support from spiritual and religious communities has been seen as an issue due to lack of understanding of mental illness and the invalidation of experiences when dealing with a mood disorder like Bipolar disorder. Oftentimes the invalidation comes in the form of spiritual communities seeing manic-psychotic episodes as “demons”, lack of self-control, substance use or personality issues within their faith community. Rather than seeking help for the individual they practice the idea of “Praying-the-Cray-Away” , certain that the power of prayer or other religious ceremonies is the solution.   

There can also be a misinterpretation of religious experience when some individuals experience Hyper-religiosity during Mania. Some individuals with Bipolar disorder may experience an increase in religious beliefs during a manic episode which faith communities interpret as a normal response to having an illness rather than a symptom of the illness. In some cases a symptom of Bipolar disorder can be religious delusions which include the belief they are Christ reborn or that they have demons watching them which can be difficult for the individual, their families and their faith-communities to understand. During depressive episodes people can feel like “God has abandoned them” or that “There is no God” which again can be a symptom of the illness rather than a reflection of their spiritual faith. 

The fear of experiencing stigma from both healthcare professionals as well faith communities can act as a barrier to seeking help. A great challenge lies in people’s inability to fit their illness into the realm of their spiritual beliefs. When you experience mental illness for the first time but you have had a spiritual connection and been a part of a faith community for a length of time it is difficult to imagine there is no spiritual explanation for what is occurring in their mind. This can lead to feelings of isolation and confusion. It is important to find a balance between faith and professional mental health care. Anyone who has spiritual faith may go through this challenging transition but remember getting help for your mood disorder does not mean you are walking away from your belief system or faith community. Rather, you are taking the necessary steps to integrate spirituality into your mental health plan. 

Integrating Spirituality into a Mental Health Plan

When integrating spirituality into your mental health treatment plan consider the holistic method which focuses on the interconnectedness of mind, body and spirit, addressing the whole person rather than just the symptoms. Working with a mental health team that considers your spiritual and religious beliefs and practices can be key to remission/recovery outcomes. Maintaining an open dialogue about spirituality and mental health with your care team can make you feel understood and supported. Creating structure, routine and habits around spirituality can keep you grounded and stable in your mental health and spiritual journey. Finally, building a supportive community based on your spiritual and mental health needs will enhance your experiences in both realms creating an environment that fosters understanding and personal growth.


Final Thoughts

Spirituality can be a powerful tool for women with Bipolar disorder, offering hope, comfort, and resilience. The journey of spirituality and Bipolar disorder do not need to reside separate from one another, they will intersect and sometimes intertwine and it will be up to you how these two journeys compliment each other. Spirituality with its unique benefits can enhance the journey to better mental health. It’s important to find a balance and seek professional guidance when needed. Lean on all the communities that are available to you for both your spiritual and mental health needs because it is these circles that will lead you to better health spiritually and in your Bipolar disorder management.  Every woman’s journey is unique—exploring what works best for personal growth is key.

Have you experienced the connection between spirituality and mental health? Share your story in the comments or connect with a support community. Let’s continue to have conversations that take us beyond the stigma to a place where spirituality and mental health can become two halves of a unique and holistic plan toward better wellness.


Thursday, January 2, 2025

The Complex Mother-Daughter Dynamic: Growing Up with a Nurse Mom and Bipolar Disorder

 

The Complex Mother-Daughter Dynamic: Growing Up with a Nurse Mom and Bipolar Disorder

Just Pray

My mother has always been a devout Christian, there are actually a number of God-fearing women in my family including my dearly departed grandmother Alvira. The irony about my mother is she is also a Registered Nurse, a woman of science which in today's society is considered a contradiction. 

Since I was a little girl my routine was school and homework during the week and church on Sundays. Sunday was God’s day and no sickness or exaggerated stomach ache got in the way of worshiping the Lord. To honour my mother I had to honour God which meant look good for Jesus, go to Sunday school followed by a two hour service where I was instructed to sit in silence so as not to say anything to embarrass my family.

Even when we were back home in Guyana I was more of a religious rouge than a good Christian girl. I rarely received the Sunday school lesson, listening only enough to get the jist so I could report to my mom on our walk home. I was always getting caught in lies and half truths and I forever questioned the word of God. 

When I was 12-years old I was kicked out of Sunday school to the utter shame of my mother. Yep folks, I was a Sunday school drop out but I would like to point out that was the only education I didn’t complete in my 35 years of academia. After this incident I announced to both my mother and grandmother that I would never set foot in church again. I say this all to say this inciting incident was the beginning of the tensions between my mother and I, a tension that would fester and grow especially in the years that followed when my mental health became more and more precarious. 

In 2016, ten years after my Bipolar diagnosis my mother and I were having a talk about some adverse effects I was experiencing from an antidepressant I had started taking. I was concerned because I had developed insomnia and hair loss. My nurse mother’s response was the following: “I don’t know why you have to take all this medication, you need to get off of them, you need to just pray.”

She had a history of giving religious-like advice when I tried to talk to her about my mental illness but on that day in history I had had enough and snapped. My response to her flippant advice was this: I asked her why it was okay for her to tell her Bipolar daughter that she didn’t need meds and the power of prayer would cure me. “Why do you think you can pray the cray away,” I continued my tirade and expressed how tired of her not taking my mental illness seriously. I accused her of being unsupportive asking her why she couldn’t just accept my diagnosis because it wasn’t up for debate. I told her when she spoke that way it diminished what I’ve been going through for over a decade. 

Now all of this was said with a lot of yelling, tears and years of pent up frustration so before things went further in an even more hurtful and negative direction I hung up the phone on her.

At that moment I realized that even though my mom is a woman of science and a believer in God she had no real knowledge of psychology or how the mind works.

My mother had been with me every step of the way in the first 10 years of my mental health journey. She was the parent who visited daily with lunch and dinner when I was locked in the psychiatric unit of the hospital. She attended all my psychiatric visits post-hospitalization. She managed my medication; she nursed me back to health; she financially supported me going back to school and yes she prayed for me when I didn’t know how to talk to God for myself. But after that fight I realized her actions though out of love were mostly out obligation rather than empathy and understanding. My mom is an amazing human and an even better nurse and she did what any nurse would do–she took care of me even when she couldn’t comprehend my illness or how that illness affected my life choices. 

One thing that was a constant point of contention was the weight gain the medication and depression caused. Before my Bipolar diagnosis I was a size 4 once I started taking mental health medication I ballooned to a size 14 and my mother had a hard time accepting that. She constantly made negative comments about my weight not out of cruelty but rather out of a need to hold onto the daughter she knew before the chaos and uncertainty of mental illness entered our lives. This weight expectation was hard on my self-image, self-esteem and ultimately had negative effects on my mental health.

There was a lot of fear and misunderstanding that clouded my relationship with my mother. Fear of disappointing her because as soon as things seem to be settling down, it could be for weeks, months or even years. Mania seemed to be waiting for us around the corner. My mother and I experienced a lot of misunderstandings due to lack of education on both our parts around my illness and substance use disorder. It was only when I stepped away from her and the rest of my family was I able to find stability without familial pressures. It was during this period as well my brave mother sought help to understand her Bipolar daughter and all the challenges that came with my mental illness. 

After the infamous phone call of 2016, I realized I had a lot of bottled up and volatile emotions toward my mother and I had to learn to express myself in a more meaningful and impactful way so I started writing her letters, taking time to think about what I wanted to say and the best ways to say it. Once, I invited her to a therapy session where I read one of my more difficult letters to her in a safe space. We both cried and hugged each other. I practice this method to this day.

Final Thoughts

Now, my mother and I simply talk to each other, we take time to have the difficult conversations we were always afraid to have with each other. We practice radical honesty even if it hurts or makes one or both of us feel uncomfortable. We cry together, we laugh together and we dance together because we are in a much better place. I set boundaries with her around my mental health and she respects them. We go to church (yes church) every Sunday together and I finally understand what she meant not “Just Pray,” but “Pray” to say thank-you to God for watching over us and bringing us to a happier healthier place in our lives. My mother is not the first one I call in crisis but as strange as it is she will always be my number one person. 

We are still on a journey of healing and self-discovery both together and individually. Continued growth and education on mental illness has come as a result of open and honest communication. We have conversations that take us beyond the stigma into a place where the mother-Bipolar daughter relationship isn’t just surviving its thriving. 

“I love you a Universe Mama, thank-you for “just praying” for me and supporting me no matter where in the world my journey takes me.”  

Tuesday, December 10, 2024

The Role of Gratitude in Recovery: Sharing Stories

The Role of Gratitude in Recovery: Sharing Stories

By Onika Dainty

Gratitude. It's more than just saying “thank you.” For many women living with Bipolar disorder, gratitude has become a powerful tool in their recovery journey. Research shows that practicing gratitude can reduce symptoms of Depression and Anxiety by up to 30%. That’s a huge impact for something as simple as taking time to appreciate the good in life.

In this blog, you’ll hear from women who have been through the highs and lows of Bipolar disorder and how embracing gratitude has helped them heal. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have been managing Bipolar disorder for years, these stories offer hope and practical tips for incorporating gratitude into your own life. Let’s dive in!


What is Bipolar Disorder? Understanding the Basics

Bipolar disorder is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings, ranging from emotional highs (Mania) to deep lows (Depression). There are different types—Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and Cyclothymia—but for many women, the emotional rollercoaster can feel overwhelming.

For women, Bipolar disorder can be especially tough due to hormonal changes that affect mood stability. From menstrual cycles to pregnancy and menopause, these hormonal shifts can make the symptoms of Bipolar even more unpredictable. It’s a daily struggle, but there are ways to manage it, and gratitude can be one of those tools.


The Science Behind Gratitude and Mental Health

Gratitude isn’t just about being polite. It actually changes your brain chemistry. When you practice gratitude, your brain releases dopamine and serotonin—those feel-good chemicals that help improve your mood. Studies have shown that people who regularly practice gratitude experience less stress, better sleep, and higher levels of happiness.

For women with Bipolar disorder, practicing gratitude can help build emotional resilience. By focusing on what’s going right, even during tough times, you can shift your perspective and reduce the intensity of depressive episodes.


Personal Stories: Starting with Me

Gratitude Journaling During Depressive Episodes
When I’m feeling low, it’s hard to see anything positive. But I keep a gratitude journal to help me through those times. Every day, I write down three things I’m grateful for, no matter how small. Sometimes it’s as simple as being thankful for a warm cup of coffee or a call from a friend. This small practice keeps me grounded and helps me shift my focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.

Daily Acts of Appreciation to Stabilize Mood
I once had a romantic partner who always said, “Thanks, I appreciate you” to everyone—whether it was a server at a restaurant or a cashier at the grocery store. That stuck with me. Now, I say it all the time, to friends, family, and even strangers. It’s a simple way to spread positivity, and it’s amazing how something so small can lift my mood on difficult days.

Finding Gratitude in Mania
During manic episodes, gratitude can feel out of reach. I often feel paranoid, unsure of who’s on my side. In those moments, I look to my faith to help me overcome feelings of hopelessness knowing that there is something greater than myself guiding me through the rough times which keeps me in a space of gratitude because  I’m still alive and still fighting. I also rely on my mental health mentor to remind me that even when I’m unwell, there are still things to be grateful for. Having someone else help me see the good keeps me rooted, even when I can’t see it myself.


Practical Ways to Incorporate Gratitude into Your Recovery

Incorporating gratitude into your life doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are a few simple ways to get started:

  • Gratitude Journaling: Start by writing down three things you’re grateful for each day. Don’t overthink it—anything from a sunny day to a supportive friend counts.

  • Mindfulness and Gratitude: Being present in the moment is a form of gratitude. Take time to notice the little things, whether it’s the sound of birds chirping or the taste of your favorite meal.

  • Small Gratitude Habits: Try saying “thank you, I appreciate you” to the people around you. It’s a small gesture, but it can shift your mindset and brighten someone else’s day too.


Overcoming Challenges: When Gratitude Feels Impossible

There will be days when finding gratitude feels impossible, especially during depressive episodes. It’s okay to feel that way. Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the pain or pretending everything’s fine—it’s about acknowledging the good, even in the midst of hardship.

In these moments, therapy and support groups can help. Talking through your struggles with a therapist or peers can provide new perspectives, making it easier to see the silver linings. And remember, it’s okay to give yourself grace. No one feels grateful 100% of the time, and that’s perfectly normal.


How Gratitude Can Improve Relationships for Women with Bipolar Disorder

Gratitude has a ripple effect on the people around you. By expressing appreciation to friends, family, and romantic partners, you strengthen those bonds and build trust. This is especially important for women with Bipolar disorder, as our loved ones often bear the brunt of our mood swings. Taking time to show gratitude for their support can go a long way in maintaining healthy relationships.

Whether it’s a simple “thank you” or a random act of kindness, incorporating gratitude into your relationships can improve communication and create deeper connections.


Final Thoughts

Gratitude may seem like a small thing, but as these personal stories show, it has the power to transform your mental health and relationships. For women managing Bipolar disorder, gratitude can be a grounding practice that provides hope, even on the hardest days.

Whether you start with a gratitude journal or a simple daily “thank you, I appreciate you” to someone who needs to hear it, the key is consistency. Gratitude is a practice, and with time, it can shift your mindset in powerful ways. Remember, recovery is a journey, and it’s important to be grateful for every small step toward your ultimate goal of wellness. 

Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with family, feasting and gratitude!

For more information on managing Bipolar I disorder, don’t forget to check out my previous post How to Start Managing Bipolar Disorder: A Comprehensive Guide. And if you’re looking for additional tools and resources to help you on your journey, you might also find Best Tools and Resources for Managing Bipolar Disorder in 2024 helpful.

Monday, October 14, 2024

The Role of Gratitude in Recovery: Women with Bipolar Disorder Share Their Stories


The Role of Gratitude in Recovery: Women with Bipolar Disorder Share Their Stories

By Onika Dainty

Gratitude. It's more than just saying “thank you.” For many women living with Bipolar disorder, gratitude has become a powerful tool in their recovery journey. Research shows that practicing gratitude can reduce symptoms of Depression and Anxiety by up to 30%. That’s a huge impact for something as simple as taking time to appreciate the good in life.

In this blog, you’ll hear from women who have been through the highs and lows of Bipolar disorder and how embracing gratitude has helped them heal. Whether you’re newly diagnosed or have been managing Bipolar disorder for years, these stories offer hope and practical tips for incorporating gratitude into your own life. Let’s dive in!

What is Bipolar Disorder? Understanding the Basics

Bipolar disorder is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings, ranging from emotional highs (Mania) to deep lows (Depression). There are different types—Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and Cyclothymia—but for many women, the emotional rollercoaster can feel overwhelming.

For women, Bipolar disorder can be especially tough due to hormonal changes that affect mood stability. From menstrual cycles to pregnancy and menopause, these hormonal shifts can make the symptoms of Bipolar even more unpredictable. It’s a daily struggle, but there are ways to manage it, and gratitude can be one of those tools.

The Science Behind Gratitude and Mental Health

Gratitude isn’t just about being polite. It actually changes your brain chemistry. When you practice gratitude, your brain releases dopamine and serotonin—those feel-good chemicals that help improve your mood. Studies have shown that people who regularly practice gratitude experience less stress, better sleep, and higher levels of happiness.

For women with Bipolar disorder, practicing gratitude can help build emotional resilience. By focusing on what’s going right, even during tough times, you can shift your perspective and reduce the intensity of depressive episodes.

Personal Stories: Women with Bipolar Disorder and Their Gratitude Practices

Story 1: Gratitude Journaling During Depressive Episodes

When I’m feeling low, it’s hard to see anything positive. But I keep a gratitude journal to help me through those times. Every day, I write down three things I’m grateful for, no matter how small. Sometimes it’s as simple as being thankful for a warm cup of coffee or a call from a friend. This small practice keeps me grounded and helps me shift my focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.

Story 2: Daily Acts of Appreciation to Stabilize Mood

I once had a romantic partner who always said, “Thanks, I appreciate you” to everyone—whether it was a server at a restaurant or a cashier at the grocery store. That stuck with me. Now, I say it all the time, to friends, family, and even strangers. It’s a simple way to spread positivity, and it’s amazing how something so small can lift my mood on difficult days.

Story 3: Finding Gratitude in Mania

During manic episodes, gratitude can feel out of reach. I often feel paranoid, unsure of who’s on my side. In those moments, I look to my faith to help me overcome feelings of hopelessness knowing that there is something greater than myself guiding me through the rough times which keeps me in a space of gratitude because I’m still alive and still fighting. I also rely on my mental health mentor to remind me that even when I’m unwell, there are still things to be grateful for. Having someone else help me see the good keeps me rooted, even when I can’t see it myself.

Practical Ways to Incorporate Gratitude into Your Recovery

Incorporating gratitude into your life doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are a few simple ways to get started:

Gratitude Journaling: Start by writing down three things you’re grateful for each day. Don’t overthink it—anything from a sunny day to a supportive friend counts.


Mindfulness and Gratitude: Being present in the moment is a form of gratitude. Take time to notice the little things, whether it’s the sound of birds chirping or the taste of your favorite meal.


Small Gratitude Habits: Try saying “thank you, I appreciate you” to the people around you. It’s a small gesture, but it can shift your mindset and brighten someone else’s day too.

Overcoming Challenges: When Gratitude Feels Impossible

There will be days when finding gratitude feels impossible, especially during depressive episodes. It’s okay to feel that way. Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the pain or pretending everything’s fine—it’s about acknowledging the good, even in the midst of hardship.

In these moments, therapy and support groups can help. Talking through your struggles with a therapist or peers can provide new perspectives, making it easier to see the silver linings. And remember, it’s okay to give yourself grace. No one feels grateful 100% of the time, and that’s perfectly normal.

How Gratitude Can Improve Relationships for Women with Bipolar Disorder

Gratitude has a ripple effect on the people around you. By expressing appreciation to friends, family, and romantic partners, you strengthen those bonds and build trust. This is especially important for women with Bipolar disorder, as our loved ones often bear the brunt of our mood swings. Taking time to show gratitude for their support can go a long way in maintaining healthy relationships.

Whether it’s a simple “thank you” or a random act of kindness, incorporating gratitude into your relationships can improve communication and create deeper connections.

Final Thoughts

Gratitude may seem like a small thing, but as these personal stories show, it has the power to transform your mental health and relationships. For women managing Bipolar disorder, gratitude can be a grounding practice that provides hope, even on the hardest days.

Whether you start with a gratitude journal or a simple daily “thank you, I appreciate you” to someone who needs to hear it, the key is consistency. Gratitude is a practice, and with time, it can shift your mindset in powerful ways. Remember, recovery is a journey, and it’s important to be grateful for every small step toward your ultimate goal of wellness.

Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with family, feasting and gratitude!

For more information on managing Bipolar I disorder, don’t forget to check out my previous post How to Start Managing Bipolar Disorder: A Comprehensive Guide. And if you’re looking for additional tools and resources to help you on your journey, you might also find Best Tools and Resources for Managing Bipolar Disorder in 2024 helpful.