Saturday, July 19, 2025

Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Women with Bipolar Disorder

Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Women with Bipolar Disorder

Trauma and Bipolar disorder are deeply intertwined, especially trauma experienced in childhood as it can potentially contribute to the development and severity of this mental illness in early adolescence or more commonly adulthood. Studies have shown that emotional abuse, for example, can impact brain development and long term function increasing an individual's vulnerability to mood disorders like Bipolar disorder.

My experiences with Gender-Based Violence (GBV) is the trauma at the root of my mood imbalances. This is not to say that if I had not experienced multiple and severe instances of GBV that I would not have developed Bipolar I disorder. Rather, my experiences and my lack of ability to cope with these traumas act as a contributing factor in how my mental illness developed. I believe seeking trauma-treatment earlier this year was a step toward the direction of continuing to manage this life-long disorder. Treatment and the coping strategies that I have learned has given me a sense of hope, understanding and personal growth. I learned a very important lesson through my  on-going treatment journey, that trauma may shape my past but it doesn’t have to define or break me. Healing must come from within for me to be whole again.    

 What Trauma Looks Like for Women with Bipolar Disorder

Trauma can come in many forms such as childhood neglect, physical or emotional abuse, grief after loss of a loved one, abandonment, emotional invalidation, systemic oppression or war trauma that leads to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). There are any number of traumatic or combined traumatic experiences that can complicate bipolar symptoms, deepening depressive episodes, amplifying anxiety and making mood regulation more difficult which can often lead to Manic or Psychotic episodes. 

Some women see their trauma as a normal fixture in their lives and do not realize they have experienced trauma until the healing journey begins. For other women, like myself,  I recognized my trauma had occurred in childhood, early adolescence and adulthood. However, I did not realize that my experiences were still affecting my daily life until I sought help from a professional and began to do the work to address my PTSD. For years, I compartmentalized my negative experiences placing it in the recesses of my mind but never really looking deep inside myself to examine how trauma plays a role in the development of my mental illness. I ignored trauma hoping it would eventually disappear and become a part of my past rather than shaping the actions of my present and future. I believe this mindset plagues a lot of women who have experienced unaddressed trauma.     

Completing Trauma Therapy: A Milestone in My Journey to Wellness

In May 2025, I completed a 12-week program through Ontario Shores Centre for Mental Health Science with a plan to continue seeking more treatment in the fall. I have struggled for years trying to find a place for the hurt, anger, shame, guilt, anxiety and fear that lived inside me due to my experiences with trauma. From the severe sexual assaults I have survived, to the loss of my grandmother which sent me spiraling into my first psychotic episode and the physical mistreatment I had experienced in the form of restraints during hospitalization, all could not be unpacked in the three months of treatment but I recognized that these experiences had a significant impact on my mental health and each trauma needed to be given attention.  

I came to realize that in the past I simply didn’t know where to begin so I shut down. Instead I focused on all the other areas in my life I felt I had control over: I built structure, routine and healthy habits; I got sober and maintained my sobriety; I managed my medication and stayed connected to my psychiatrist; I reconnected with family and friends; and I maintained weekly appointments with my counsellor. But it wasn’t enough. The ghosts of traumas past haunted me. I wasn’t sleeping well, my appetite was low, I was experiencing more frequent depressive episodes and my anxiety increased daily. Then my counselor suggested it was time to take a closer look at my trauma and how ignoring it was affecting my day-to-day ability to function. Together we researched several local trauma treatment programs and with her assistance and support I went through the referral process for several programs. 

When I started trauma-treatment in January 2025, I will admit I was sceptical about the kind of results I would get from peeling back so many layers from so many years ago. If I told you the 12-weeks of treatment was easy I would be lying.  Those three months were uncomfortable at best and painful at worst. I cried myself to sleep after almost every session but soon I noticed sleep became easier, my appetite began to return and that thing I always did where I check my front door to see if it's locked? That hasn’t gone away but it has gotten better. Treatment took an emotional toll on me but for the better and by my last session I had come to the realization that I was not nearly finished, there was more healing to be done. 

Life feels different. I have more clarity around my triggers, I am building a new relationship with boundaries and the tools I use to regulate my emotions have evolved. I feel more grounded but still have my moments of vulnerability. It’s not a perfect life but it feels more manageable, more authentic and more mine. I know I am just at the beginning of this new journey and my trauma will always walk with me but soon, with a lot of work it will be at a distance rather than ahead of me defining where my path leads.  

Life Post Trauma-Treatment: You Don’t Just “Get Over” Trauma—You Grow Around It and Thrive

After months of treatment, I likened my trauma to having a beautiful mirror covering a gaping hole in the wall. When the mirror shatters and falls you are left looking at a giant hole you put the mirror in front of to hide in the first place. The shattered mirror isn’t the trauma, the hole is and me facing myself in the mirror is the first step toward healing. You can never erase the trauma, never just “get over” it no matter how many beautiful things, events, experiences or people you place in front of it. Rather, by learning to face trauma you can work with it, take control of it and find your wholeness again despite the holes. 

Through treatment I didn’t “get better, I got stronger with tools.” I learned more about how my trauma affected my emotional patterns, I am now able to recognize my trauma responses and apply the coping tools I learned before my reactions spiral out of control leading to anxiety or in some cases worse. Some of the exercises that helped me that may help you include:

  • Grounding Exercise: Earthing (connecting body with the earth), deep breathing and meditation (InsightTimer App)

  • Daily Journaling with Prompts (Usually found in my workbook but can be found online if you search by topic)

  • Daily Affirmations (IAM App)

  • Daily Exercise (Release stress and anxiety)

  • Community and Family Support

By incorporating these few habits and relating them to healing my trauma, I’ve discovered new ways to thrive in a world where oftentimes there is no escaping bad experiences in a healthy way. Though I had my doubts about my ability to feel joy, love and happiness while living with trauma, now I know that not only is it possible to feel worthy of love but to actually feel my soul rest because I trust myself to handle the tough moments when they inevitably come. 

Final Thoughts-Words for Women Still in the Storm

To the women who are still experiencing unaddressed trauma, still living in the pain of the past, unsure if you can face yourself and the experiences that currently shape your present there is hope. You don’t have to be fearless, you simply have to be ready to try. There is strength in vulnerability and wisdom in not knowing where the journey will lead you but having faith in the fact that something positive is waiting for you at the end of what I can promise won’t be an easy road but a highly rewarding journey to being whole. Remember, your story is real and relevant.  As hard as it will be to speak, that painful truth deserves space in this world even if the world shakes when you tell it. 

I grateful for the tools I have gained in my trauma treatment journey and I feel no fear for the journey ahead of me because I know that I have the love of my family and friends, the support of my healthcare team and the faith that the Onika I am becoming is strong enough to handle any and all challenges, tough moments and painful tears on my road to wellness. Trauma may live with me but it no longer controls me or the decisions I make regarding my future success and happiness. Thank you to my trauma treatment team for your support and encouragement during this difficult but worthwhile process. 

To my readers currently living with unaddressed trauma I invite you to consider: What would healing look like for you—on your own terms?
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Thursday, July 17, 2025

A Bipolar Woman's Self-Reflection - Go Where Your Heart Takes You | Special Edition 100th Blog

 

A Bipolar Woman's Self-Reflection - Go Where Your Heart Takes You | Special Edition 100th Blog

The Power of Salt: A Little Girl’s Big Dream

When I was a little girl my mother and I would bake cakes together. She would put all the ingredients in a bowl–flour, butter, sugar, vanilla essence, eggs and a generous pinch of salt. She never forgot the salt even though it wasn’t a part of the recipe in the What’s Cooking in Guyana cook book that travelled with us from back home. One day curiosity got the better of me and I asked my mother why she put something salty in something that was made to taste sweet. The conversation went as follows:


“Mama why do you add salt to the cake? Won’t salt make the cake taste bad?” I inquired.


My mother smiled at me with a knowing smile she still gives me today and said, “You want to know a secret the recipe book won’t tell you? Salt will actually bring out the sweet flavour of the cake, it will make the cake taste better Nika.”


My little girl mind started to process what my mother was telling me and another question came to me, “So mama is salt in everything in the world? Does everyone know what salt is, what salt can do?”


She smiled again and gave me a surprising answer, “Yes Nika, salt is in most things it’s an essential part of life; it's in the Earth, in the animals, in us and the food we eat. Salt is a common thing but no, not everyone uses it in the right way, some people overuse it but everyone knows what it is.”


Because my mother was a registered nurse and a knowledgeable woman of science, I believed she was telling me the truth and from that truth came a surprising truth of my own. As I stirred the ingredients in the bowl, I considered each one carefully and realized that the one ingredient necessary for the world to be sweeter, better and nicer was a generous pinch of salt to bring forth its natural goodness. 


 I thought about the mean kids at school who bullied me relentlessly since my arrival to Canada the year before. I thought about the little boy that called me the N-word the first week of kindergarten and his father that encouraged him to do so. I thought about the challenges I had faced so far and were bound to face because I wasn’t like other kids. Then I thought about what it would be like to achieve the new desire growing in my heart and said with a steady and determined voice, 


“Well mama, one day my name will be as common as Salt.”


That was where my heart led me at 6-years old after a seemingly ordinary conversation with my mother about salt. I was a little girl with a big dream and though I had no idea how to make it happen it was born and grew in my heart over a bowl of cake mix and a generous pinch of salt and I was determined to see it through. 


The Long Painful Road to Losing My Way


When I was in high school I started scouting universities years before most students my age. At 15-years-old I went to a university fair and fell in love with Carleton University in Ottawa, ON. I took it as a done deal that I was destined to be there when I won a Carleton mug at one of the information sessions. I drank everything from that mug knowing that one day I would be sitting in a dorm room writing my New York Times bestseller in between lectures. 


When my senior year came and it was time to apply for schools, It was time to follow my heart to Carleton University. However, my parents were against me going away to school. They were worried about the 4 hour distance from Toronto to Ottawa, they were terrified something would happen to me and they couldn’t protect me. They loved me and wanted the best for me. They wanted me to take the safest route to higher education, a life with financial security and very little struggle or adversity. I told them on the final day to send in an acceptance letter that it was Carleton University or nothing. 


In September 2001, I sat on the front lawn of Carleton’s Glengarry residence–my new home–holding tight to my Carleton mug, watching hot air balloons float in the Ottawa skies like an oman of great things to come and waved goodbye to my family as they drove away. I had arrived, I had followed my heart and it was time to conquer the world. Go Where Your Heart Takes You. 


During the five years I spent in Ottawa I made friends that I still have today, I wrote articles, literary papers, historical essays, an honours thesis and thought provoking poetry that I performed on slam poetry stages across the city; I struggled with Major Depressive disorder and Generalized Anxiety disorder; I fell in love with a beautiful man who broke my heart and I graduated with an Honours degree in History.


I also developed a drug problem and experienced my first Manic-Psychotic episode and hospitalization in a psychiatric unit. When I moved back home with my parents I was unrecognizable. I continued to have rapid-cycle highs and lows for almost 17 years. I fell hard and fast and somewhere along the way I lost confidence in my internal compass, I stopped following my heart, allowing life to simply happen to me and allowing other people’s fear over my mental instability to dictate my actions.  


There were events that felt like wins along this long and painful road. I graduated from Humber College with a graduate certificate in Public Relations and Communications, I moved to Toronto to be an event planner after studying Event Management at Durham College and I became a Peer Support Specialist working for a major Toronto hospital which made me feel I had regained my sense of self and that my internal compass was back on track leading me in the direction of my heart’s desire. 


During this period of what I believed was wellness, I hosted a successful podcast, I became a mental health advocate and I had secured my dream job yet it all felt wrong, it all felt life the lies of an imposter. I knew in the deepest part of me that I was not listening to my heart anymore, rather I was leading with the fear in my head. I was living up to other’s expectations of me by pretending to be alright when inside I was not alright, I was dying and my heart was broken. 


When Your Heart is Broken It Still Speaks


In 2022, two years after COVID-19 turned the world upside down I had to take a hard look at my myself and my life choices: I was a woman with an unmanaged mental illness, I was non-compliant with my medication, I was self-medicating with cannabis and I was smoking a pack of cigarettes daily all while trying to balance work obligation and life obligations. I was stressed, depressed, depleted, avoiding my unaddressed trauma, Hypomanic–on my best days, Manic–on my worst. I was an overweight, people-pleasing burnout pretending to have it all together, pretending to be happy when in reality I was drowning. 


How did I get here? I truly believe it's because I did not go where my heart was trying to lead me. Instead of being the fearless little girl with a big dream I had turned into someone I did not recognize. I lost my way and had no idea how to find the right path, the one that would lead me down the road to fulfilling my big dream.


TRIGGER WARNING…


On November 7, 2022, I made a plan to end my life by driving into my parent’s poolhouse. My mind kept telling me I was an unloved, unwanted failure and I didn’t need to be here anymore. I remember the moment before I put my car into gear it was as if every broken piece of my heart went into gear as well and screamed at me, Onika! Stop! Don’t Do It! Remember Your Dreams! And at that moment, when it mattered the most my internal compass that lives in the centre of me came back to life and reminded me to lead with my heart and not my head. 


I remembered I had parents, nieces, a grandmother, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends that loved me. I remembered that I had been lost before and found my way back to myself with hard work and unwavering determination. I remembered that the only way out is through, that there was light at the end of the tunnel, sunshine after the rain and that this awful time would pass if I just fought for the happiness I deserved. Go Where Your Heart Takes You. 


Final Thoughts - Go Where Your Heart Takes You, It's Worth the Journey


Millions of words ago and hundreds of lived experience stories I started a blog and today I write #100. I’m a different person than I was at article #1. This blog has changed me but I had to make the necessary changes in my life to be able to be as real, raw and authentic as I’ve been with the readers that have supported me on my journey to wellness.


I’m still living with a severe mental illness but now with the support of my family, friends and healthcare team I’m not only managing my illness, I’m thriving in it. I’m over a year and a half sober as of this week and I have not touched a cigarette in the same length of time. I’ve lost 30 pounds by re-introducing structure, routine and healthy habits into my life. I practice self-care and mindfulness daily and I give myself grace and self-compassion when I fall short of achieving my goals. I’m kinder and more patient with myself accepting that I’m fabulous and flawed all at once.  


I focus on my passions and staying well so I can simply enjoy my life. I experience peace, love, joy and happiness and don’t allow the stresses that inevitably come overwhelm me. I haven't seen the inside of a psychiatric unit in almost 2 years. I live to please myself rather than others. Finally, because I put the pieces of my heart back together through resilience and grit my internal compass has never worked better.


Since that day in my childhood kitchen, I have made it a habit to follow my heart even when logic dictates I should go in a certain and usually safe direction. I have always looked inside of myself, to my internal compass that lies in the centre of me and gone my own way. Even when bad things happen and I want to give up I remember that if I hold onto my 6-year old self’s courage and determination, listen to my heart and embrace the journey regardless of where the road takes me I will not fail and I will find my dreams waiting for me to catch them. Today, I’m a writer, a blogger, a public speaker, a daughter, a granddaughter, a niece, an aunt, a cousin and a friend to a tribe that loves me and that is a dream come true. 


How did I get to this juncture on my journey? How will I realize all the little and big dreams that live inside the centre of myself?   I followed my heart, I forged my own path and continue to take this journey to wellness and ultimate happiness one day and one heart decision at a time. So my advice to all the readers of my 100th blog is to Go Where Your Heart Takes You and you will never go wrong.
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Monday, July 14, 2025

The Importance of Routine: How Women with Bipolar Disorder Manage Daily Life

 

The Importance of Routine: How Women with Bipolar Disorder Manage Daily Life

One of the greatest lessons I have learned on my journey to better health and mental wellness is the importance of forming Structure, Routine and Healthy Habits in my daily life. In fact I learned the lesson so well that the phrase structure, routine and habit is a daily mantra I say to myself as a reminder of how important these pillars are but how implementing these three ideas have changed my life and overall mental health mindset.


Some might say I am rigid in my routine because I create daily to-do-lists that incorporate everything from making my bed to brushing my teeth but I don’t see it the same way. As a blogger, writer and a lover of journaling I find comfort in writing things down. I also pull from my past experience as an event planner where attention to details is key and everything is considered an event. I combine the two skillsets and come up with a robust list of daily tasks that keep me busy and focused. 


I have never been a lover of chaos or surprises, I thrive on predictability and structure as they give me a sense of stability and control which oftentimes by the nature of my mood disorder I have no real say over when a Bipolar episode occurs. When I am in the midst of an episode I feel overwhelmed and my thinking is disorganized so when I experience remission I use the tools that I have learned to create structure, routine and healthy habits that contribute to managing my Bipolar Disorder and the chaos that can come with it. 


What others may call rigidity I consider finding my rhythm in a world where I come with my own background music that isn’t always pleasant and can sometimes be too loud. By writing down my goals and objectives for the day I stay on-task and I feel a sense of balance especially because I give myself grace knowing that my lists can sometimes be ambitious and may not be completed but as the great Scarlett O’Hara in Gone with the Wind said, “Tomorrow is another day.” 


In this article I will discuss why routine matters, how to build a routine that works for you, I will give an example of my own daily task list, discuss the role of healthy habits, what you can do when your routine gets thrown off and how to stay consistent when developing structure, routine and healthy habits without burning out or feeling overwhelmed.    


Why Routine Matters for Women with Bipolar Disorder


Routines are essential to women experiencing mental illness as they provide structure, reduce anxiety and give individuals a sense of control. Predictable daily routines can help alleviate decision fatigue, decrease feelings of being overwhelmed and promote a sense of stability. Routines also help regulate sleep patterns creating a healthy Circadian Rhythm (sleep-wake cycle), increase energy and assist with the regulation of emotions. Developing a routine can also increase a person's sense of safety when experiencing unstable moods. Finally, routine acts as the opposition of chaos which can often arise during a Bipolar episode. 


Routine can be especially important to women who are balancing multiple roles like parent, daughter, professional and caregiver. When wearing multiple hats in your daily life, routine can help compartmentalize those roles and assist in navigating your way through the challenges that may come with each. Routines can also support the consistent management of your  mental health and keep your illness in remission for an extended period of time.  


Building a Routine That Works for You


When building a sustainable routine that works for you it's important to take things one step or one habit at a time. For example, I would not recommend an overhaul on all your all your habits good or bad, at once. Rather choose 1-2 sustainable positive habits that you currently practice daily and 1 habit you find challenging or want to change.  


Before you start building your daily routine ask yourself what foundational habits you already practice and write them down in your dedicated Tasks and To-Do-List journal: 


  • Do you wake up at the same time? Do you go to bed at the same time?
  • What time of day do you have breakfast?
  • What time of day do you shower/dress or brush your teeth?
  • If you take medication what time of the day is that task assigned to?
  • What time do you eat lunch? What time of day do you eat dinner?
  • When are your work hours?
  • How many tasks do you complete in a day? (be realistic and kind to yourself when considering this question)
  • When do you usually have downtime? What are some self-care activities you do during this time?


After reflecting on all these questions it is also important to ask yourself if there are any habits you have that you would like to change? Anything you would like to do differently? Are there any tasks that you wish to change or add? Building a routine that you can follow daily will not be easy, it will take work to develop and implement but the benefits will be evident once you have finished building a routine that works for you. 


Below is an example of my daily routine (don’t laugh at me please) and honestly 85 per cent of the time I follow it to the letter but there are times that life, caregiving responsibilities or my illness gets in the way and I’m unable to complete everything. During those periods I have learned to give myself grace, self-compassion and understanding that I’m human. 


Onika’s Tasks and To-Do-List 2025

  • Wake up- 5:00am
  • Meditation and Prayer
  • Make Bed/Clean and Organize Space
  • Shower/Brush Teeth/Dress
  • AM Medication-6:00am
  • Coffee Time!
  • Prep Gym Smoothie
  • Gym Time-7:00am-8:30am
  • Banking, Budgeting, Bills
  • OnikaDainty.com (write 3 articles)
  • Counselling (weekly)
  • Education Hour
  • Update and Review 2025 Calendar
  • Check Email/Social Media
  • Dinner & Downtime at 7:00pm-9:00pm (self-care activity, journaling, audiobook or listening to music)
  • PM Meds and Bedtime-9:30pm

At-a-glance my daily routine might seem “over-scheduled” but the reason it has worked so well for me is based on my life experiences and being able to determine what I need to make my life flow in the right direction. Certain items on that list are “non-negotiables” for me like waking up and going to bed at the same time daily or taking my morning and evening medication. Others I am more flexible about based on my mental state and other daily responsibilities like being a caregiver to my mother who is experiencing dementia. Life always will get in the way of your plans but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have one.


The Role of Healthy Habits: A Lived Experience Perspective

Developing healthy habits was the hardest of the three pillars for me. My life– prior to two years ago– was full of unhealthy habits. I was a smoker, a binge eater, non-compliant with my medication, I spent most days in bed watching Netflix and I rarely exercised. The one thing I did do for myself during the summer months was go hiking on the weekends. I made a lot of excuses to justify my habits because I simply wasn’t ready to change. Being healthy is hard and being unhealthy was easy. At least it seemed easy until I started to self-reflect and really examine the toll being unhealthy was taking on me physically, mentally and emotionally. I made a decision to change and I became determined to act. 


The first year of healthy habit building was not easy. I quit smoking (1year and 7 months) and started addictions counselling; With the support of friends and family I lost 22 pounds by developing a nutritional plan that worked for me; I took control of my medication management with the support of my healthcare team. I finally joined a gym that didn’t feel intimidating and have lost 15 pounds since starting my daily walks on the treadmill. 


To create healthy habits for my mental health I restarted regular counseling, joined a local recovery college where I learn psychoeducation and self-care strategies. I sought out psychotherapy for trauma treatment and I set boundaries with family and friends advising them that alone time was needed and supportive time with them was valuable and needed to be scheduled unless there was a dire emergency. Setting boundaries with the people in my life was key to protecting my peace and emotional wellbeing as I found in the past I would get overwhelmed easily by others and I would turn to bad habits to cope with stress.  


What I have learned in the past 2 years is that healthy habits are a choice. They are based on the decisions you make to better your life and the commitment you make to yourself to make a change. None of the above changes were rapid or else I know I wouldn’t stick with them and sometimes I falter (ex. I had pizza for dinner last night) but I give myself grace and know that a setback is not a failure and in order to be successful I can’t give up on my goal of maintaining healthy habits and continuing to develop new ones as I grow and learn on my journey to wellness and mental stability.


What to Do When Your Routine Gets Thrown Off


So what do you do when your routine gets thrown off? Be honest with yourself, it will happen. For myself, it's usually related to mood shifts or episodes, especially the extreme lows when I don’t have the energy to get out of bed, much less make my bed. I also find myself not checking off boxes when my caregiving duties to my mom call me away or simply when you get a life surprise like your car breaking down. What always helps me regroup is giving myself grace rather than feeling guilt and remembering what Scarlett O’Hara said, “Tomorrow is another day.” 


If you fall off your routine for longer than desired here are some recovery tips:

  • Just do one thing
  • Shorten the list. Go back to your core 1-2 habits
  • Give yourself grace, self-compassion and understanding
  • Remember your “why.” Why did you start to build your structure, routine and healthy habits in the first place?


Getting thrown off happens to everyone once in a while. It's what you chose to do with your setback that will define your successes in the future. Learning from your experiences is essential to getting through your down times and growing into a person who values their mental, physical, emotional health.


 Consistency and balance are important so do not force yourself to rebuild a routine before you are ready. In order to maintain structure you also have to be flexible. So avoid all-or-nothing or black-and-white thinking when it comes to determining how successful you are at creating and maintaining your structure, routine and healthy habits. Consistency lives in the grey area and ultimately is defined by you and the unique experiences that are a part of your wellness journey.


There is no shame in using tools like alarms, calendar reminders and voice notes to help you maintain the new system of daily life you are building. For example, after a really rough mental health episode I usually have to set 4-5 alarms to wake at my designated 5:00am and if I can’t get up I go back to sleep because I know I am tired and I know my body still needs rest. I remember to give myself grace, show myself compassion because 5:00am comes every day and when I am living in my wellness my structure, routine and healthy habits will return or I will be flexible and readjust. 


Final Thoughts


It’s important to note that structure, routine and healthy habits won’t eliminate Bipolar disorder but they can make life more liveable, more joyful and uniquely yours. I don’t know where I would be or who I would be without the systems I have put in place to find my rhythm in this Bipolar world that lives inside my mind. What I have learned about myself is that even before my diagnosis I was not a fan of surprise and chaos. I simply didn’t have the knowledge or tools to control the instability around me but now I do and I use the tools to my advantage daily. 


I’ve also learned not to feel bad about myself or try to control the outcome of my day when chaos inevitably comes regardless of the structure, routine and healthy habits I’ve established. A part of finding my rhythm is also discovering my flow and there are certain triggers, times of the year and unexpected events or surprises that will throw my routine off. When these times happen I give myself grace and remind myself like Scarlett O’Hara said, “Tomorrow is another day.” 


Remember, today is an opportunity to do something you’ve never done before so ask yourself: What’s one small habit you can commit to this week—for you, and your peace?

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